Having trouble finding love? Don’t settle!

When you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for...

I had to learn the truth in this saying the hard way at age 39, and I don’t want you to do the same!  As we get older, we may mistakenly begin to believe that we will never find love.  We may even think, “Better to marry someone I don’t love, than to die alone!”

The problem with this way of thinking is that you can create a setup for NEVER finding love in this lifetime!   If you are still single, there is still time for you to do the needed soul surgery on yourself to create a situation where you have the potential to truly find love.

But if you instead marry the wrong person, you probably won’t have the proper concentration, time, energy or motivation to change into the person you wish to be, so that you are then ready to find the love of your life.

When I married at 39, my inner wisdom said loud and clear that this was not the man for me, but I didn’t listen.  I figured he was good enough.  Good enough soon turned into a nightmare of blame, criticism and unhappiness because we did not truly love each other.  We did not share that special feeling that helps you get through the tough times together.

Especially as we age, you need to truly love that other person more than yourself at times, because illness and other types of challenge will arrive sooner or later.  Can you truly love this person through thick and thin, even when their own challenges start to drive you nuts?

These are the best reasons not to settle.  Lifelong commitments are no joke.  To be sure you are not settling, ask yourself if you love this person more than you love yourself.  Would do anything to help them if they were ill or had some other unexpected life challenge?  If you cannot answer yes enthusiastically to this question, do not settle for less than love.

Want to know more about finding the love of your life before it’s too late?  Don’t miss  How To Believe In Love Again.